Quiet confidence is a quiet assurance that you are confident in yourself and your abilities. It’s not about being loud or boastful, but rather a quiet self-assurance.
It is something that many people struggle with, so we’ve come up with 12 ways to exude quiet confidence which will help you feel more grounded and at ease in social situations or when meeting new people.
Why is Quiet Confidence so Attractive?
Being quiet doesn’t mean that you are shy or insecure. Quiet confident people exude an energy of self-assurance and strength, which is very attractive to other people. It might be quiet, but it’s powerful! It also shows that you are comfortable in your own skin.
12 Ways to Exude Quiet Confidence
1. Don’t get caught up in judging others
If you don’t like something that’s going on in a conversation or meeting, then it can be easy to start judging others.
When someone is confident they are less likely to judge others when faced with an uncomfortable situation; instead, they will feel more grounded and at ease with themselves which comes across as very attractive.
2. Look others in the eye when speaking
When you are quiet confident it’s important to look others in the eye. You want to show that you are comfortable and at ease with yourself, which is why looking people in the eyes shows this self-assurance.
This can be challenging if you’re anxious or nervous around other people, but practicing making eye contact when you’re out and about it will get easier.
3. Show that you have a good sense of humor
A quiet confident person is able to laugh at themselves and joke around. They are comfortable enough in their own skin that they don’t need to try hard or put on a show so having a good sense of humor shows others this quiet confidence.
It’s important not to take yourself too seriously- you want people to like you for who you are and not feel like they have to impress you.
4. Listen intently to others
Make sure that people will find it easy to talk with you because they know that you’ll be able to listen intently.
Not only does this show others your quiet confidence but also shows them how genuinely interested in what they have to say and even if someone is nervous about meeting new people or speaking out loud- listening intently will show them that they have nothing to be nervous about.
5. Bring your good energy to the room
A quiet confident person is very aware of their own emotions and how these impact other people. So when you are calm but have positive energy this brings a lot to the room which makes others feel safe around you.
It’s not about being loud or boisterous all the time – just know how to bring their good energy into the room.
6. Know how to voice your opinion respectfully
Knowing how to voice your opinion respectfully shows quiet confidence as it takes a lot of strength and belief in yourself.
Not only this but knowing how to respect the opinions of other people is a great quality to have.
When you know how to voice your opinion respectfully, this shows others that you will be able to respect them too- which makes for better relationships with others.
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7. Be kind to others
Quiet confident people know how to be kind and generous with their words. They don’t need constant attention or compliments- they just focus on being good by everyone around them which is very attractive.
This kindness also shows others that you are approachable and that you are interested in making the world a better place.
Being kind and generous with your words also makes you more likely to get these types of compliments back which is very rewarding!
8. Smile more often – it will change how others respond to you
When people smile they know that it will help them to connect with others.
People are drawn towards those who have a nice smile and just by smiling more you can feel happier too. This is why people know how important their smiles are which shows everyone else this quiet confidence as well.
This doesn’t mean forcing yourself to smile if you don’t feel like it- quite confident people know how important their smiles are and also when they should use them.
9. Dress for yourself not to impress others
When people dress up they do so because it makes them feel good. This is not to impress others or say “look at me” but instead quiet confidence is knowing that you don’t need anyone else and dressing in a way where feels comfortable- even if this means casual clothes.
This also shows self-awareness and confidence in knowing yourself.
10. Develop a strong sense of self-awareness
A quiet confident person will know themselves and their own strengths as well as weaknesses which is a very attractive quality. Not only this, but it takes quiet confidence to be aware of ourselves because we all have those moments where we don’t think so highly of ourselves or feel insecure about something- but self-aware people can turn these situations around.
This quiet confidence shows others that you are aware of yourself and your strengths- which is a great quality to have.
11. Don’t be afraid to show people your vulnerabilities
A quiet confident person knows that their vulnerabilities are what makes them human and shows others they can be trusted.
Being vulnerable with other people is a great way to show quiet confidence because it only takes one step for someone else to trust you if you let them in- even if this means showing your flaws or weaknesses.
We all have flaws so confident people know that they’re not alone in them and trust other people with theirs because everyone has these quiet moments where it feels like the world is against us.
Not only this but they know how to be honest about their vulnerabilities- which takes a lot of strength. This shows others that you are trustworthy and will allow them to trust you as well.
#12. Don’t compare yourself to others
A quiet confident person won’t need constant reassurance from other people because they know who they are and value their own strengths.
They also have the confidence when it comes to being comfortable with themselves- even if this means accepting that everyone has a different path in life.
This self-awareness is why quiet confident people show their strengths instead of needing praise or validation from other people all the time! They prefer to be their own person.
What are the Benefits of Exuding Quiet Confidence?
- People will like you for who you are and not feel the need to impress.
- People will feel comfortable around you because you are very aware of how their actions affect others.
- It’s quite easy to maintain relationships with quiet confident people as they know how to listen intently and voice their opinions respectfully.
- You will be able to respect others and they will return the favor.
- People are naturally drawn towards quiet confident people because their energy is positive, but grounded.
The power of quiet confidence is that it’s not about what others think or say, but rather the strength to know you’re enough.
If this post helped give you some ideas on how to boost your sense of self-worth and lower any anxiety around social situations (even if they don’t involve speaking), then we’ve done our job! Share these tips with a friend who could use them too.