Caring is a normal part of life as it proves that you’re human. In fact, caring is also linked to empathy, which is your capacity to feel like others do.
The only bad thing about caring is when you care too much that you sacrifice your own sanity in the process. Most often than not, caring too much will lead to constant heartbreak and pain that you can’t prevent, even if you tried.
While caring is good, caring too much can end in disaster. In this article, we’ll be talking about 10 signs that you care too much and what you can do about it.
Is Caring Too Much A Bad Thing?
Caring is not a bad thing as it shows how much you understand others. However, the ultimate sacrifice when you care too much is your own mental health and emotional sanity.
Caring too much can lead to additional stress and anxiety that you could have prevented if only you set proper boundaries on caring. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t care altogether, but you should be wary of caring to the point that it breaks your own heart.
To put it simply, caring too much is detrimental to your mental state in every way. This doesn’t just apply to caring about people, but this can easily apply to caring about things that matter to you like your career.
You need to find the proper balance between caring too much and caring too little for the sake of your sanity.
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10 Signs You Care Too Much (And How to Stop)
1. You’re afraid to say no
You instantly assume that just because something or someone matters to you, that you aren’t allowed to say no sometimes.
You should practice setting firm boundaries in order to care less than you do and don’t be hesitate in doing so. The only way you’ll feel more mentally sane is by being capable of saying no.
2. You can’t set proper boundaries
As mentioned above, a lot of the root causes of caring too much comes from your inability to set boundaries in general. Boundaries are how you show respect to others, but more specifically to yourself. Without boundaries, people will constantly be pushing you around.
You need to practice setting firm boundaries and actually sticking to those boundaries. This is how you can effectively work on caring less.
3. You seek external validation
It can be very exhausting to need validation from others as this is proof that you naturally care too much as a person. However, this isn’t healthy and can only end in disaster.
The only solution for this is to be secure in your skin and stop caring about other people’s opinions of you. People will always have something to say, both good and bad, but if you’re secure enough it won’t matter to you.
4. You play the victim
Unfortunately, this is a common tendency of people who care too much. Rather than playing the survivor in your own story, you play the victim, which is a very bad mindset to be in.
You need to toughen up and start shifting your perspective to care less. You can’t always think you were wronged in a victim way, but by thinking you survived all of that, you shift the power back to you.
5. You’re a people pleaser
There’s normally a link between people pleasers and caring too much. If you have this need to make people happy because of your actions, you’re naturally inclined to care about them more than intended.
To work on this, you need to stop doing things just to please others. This is similar to asking for validation so the bottom line is to just be secure enough in your self-worth.
6. You seek attention
You may care too much about people or things because you want their attention, similar to being a people pleaser. At some point, you have to realize that doing this does nobody good, especially not for you.
An adequate solution is to stop doing things to gain the attention of others and be focused on working on your own life. If you’re going to do something, make sure that it isn’t for the end goal of gaining the attention of others.
7. You are indecisive
It’s possible that one of the root causes of your ability to care too much comes from indecisiveness. You don’t know what you want and you certainly don’t know what you deserve, so you choose to attach yourself unhealthily to the point that’s detrimental to your mental health.
You need to work on your indecisiveness and know exactly what you want. The only solution here is to work on your decision-making abilities in order to care healthily about things and people.
8. You don’t follow your gut
The sad truth is that people who care too much find themselves in toxic and unhealthy relationships for the reason that they didn’t go with their gut instinct.
You need to practice trusting your gut instinct because most likely, your guts are trying to tell you the big picture – especially when walking away from something or someone not good for you.
9. You play it safe
You care too much because you like to stay in what’s familiar and comfortable to you, which is why you don’t bother doing anything about it.
To care less, you need to get away from your comfort zone and stop choosing the familiar zone.
10. You get easily attached to people and things
If you care too much, there’s a huge risk of you getting attached fast, which is very unhealthy. This doesn’t automatically mean it’s genuine, but it’s just second-nature to you.
Practice a healthy detachment as you’re getting to know someone and let them in once you’ve proven they’re trustworthy.
I hope this article was able to shed insight into everything you needed to know about caring too much. The bottom line is that caring isn’t necessarily bad, as long as you find the right balance in it.