Are you negative about everything? Do you look for the negative in every situation, even when it’s not there? If so, then it might be time to reassess your attitude.
Negativity is contagious and can spread around quickly. So if you want more positivity in your life, below are 15 signs that suggest that negativity is what’s holding you back.
What is a negative person?
A negative person is defined as someone who tends to think and speak in a way that emphasizes all the bad things about themselves, other people, or situations.
This personality type can be difficult for those close to them because they often see the world through such an intense lens of negativity.
As you read this list of 15 signs that suggest you might be a negative person, try not only identifying with some but also thinking about how it affects your relationships with others around you. It may help motivate you to work on being more positive.
15 Signs That Suggest You Are a Negative Person
1. You’re has a bad attitude towards just about everything
If you think that nothing in your life is going well, and there’s nothing good happening for you right now, then it might be time to reassess how positive you are. There will always be negative things in our lives – but sometimes the negative outweighs the positive so much that we become incapable of seeing any goodness at all.
Don’t get me wrong – negative things happen to everyone, and I’m not suggesting that you should just ignore them or pretend they don’t exist. But if negative events are the only ones that befall you time after time, then it’s likely there is something in your mindset causing this negativity to snowball out of control.
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2. You don’t believe good things about yourself
Do you constantly find negative ways to talk or think about yourself? Are your internal monologues negative and critical, focused on what’s wrong with who you are rather than what’s right?
If so, then this is likely a sign of negativity. It might be time for some self-love – try to reframe negative thoughts and give yourself a little more credit.
You are good enough, even if you think you aren’t. Remind yourself of these things every day until the negative mindset begins to fade away.
3. You don’t allow yourself to be happy
Do you find yourself struggling with negative thoughts? Do you fight negative feelings or emotions, and try not to let them take over your mind for too long? If so, then this is another sign of negativity.
Negative people often struggle when it comes to allowing themselves to feel good about life – they are always trying to stop negative thoughts, even if it means suppressing positive ones too.
4. You don’t tend to think about the future
Do you find it difficult to plan for your future? Do negative thoughts come up when you try and imagine what may happen in a few years’ time, or do negative events from your past get in the way of planning ahead?
If this sounds like you then there’s likely some negative thinking going on. Negative people often have hopeless thoughts about the future, which means they are unable to see what’s possible in life.
So next time you try and imagine your future, focus on the positive aspects of it – even if this feels difficult at first.
Try using visualization techniques or meditation apps to help yourself feel more optimistic when thinking about tomorrow. It might take some practice, but negative people can learn to be positive too!
5. You blame events on other people
Do you find it difficult to take responsibility for negative things that happen in your life? Do negative thoughts come up when you try and look at the cause of these negative events, or do past experiences get in the way of self-reflection? If this sounds like you then there’s likely something else going on.
Negative people often blame events on other people, or a situation they’ve been in – and it can be difficult to look at the cause of these things because this means looking back over negative past experiences too.
If you want more positivity in your life, start taking responsibility for what happens next time rather than blaming others.
6. You always focus on the less than perfect aspects of other people
Do you constantly find yourself focusing on negative things about other people? Do negative thoughts come up when someone does something nice for you, or do negative past experiences get in the way of seeing anything good at all?
Negative people often focus on the imperfect aspects of other people and blame them for it. Try to understand that everyone has their flaws, as well as their positives.
7. You don’t feel very grateful
Do you find yourself struggling when it comes to feeling gratitude? Do negative thoughts come up when someone does something nice for you, or do negative past experiences get in the way of seeing anything good at all?
Negative people often struggle with feelings of gratitude because negative thoughts get in the way – making it difficult to see anything good around them.
A great way of getting more gratitude into your life is by keeping a journal or diary, where you write down all the things that have happened during each day that are worth being grateful fo. If this sounds like too much work then just take some time to think about what you’re grateful for at the end of each day.
8. You find it hard to stay focused on the present moment
Do negative thoughts come up when people start planning for tomorrow or do negative past experiences get in the way of looking at what’s happening right now?
Negative people often struggle with an appreciation for the present moment and tend to dwell on all that is wrong in their current situation. Try to write down things you appreciate about yourself, others, and your life in general.
9. You don’t like yourself very much
Negative people often struggle with feeling good about themselves because they’re constantly focusing on their imperfections and flaws.
A great way of feeling more confident in yourself is by practicing mindfulness, where you focus on what’s happening right now rather than past experiences which are having a negative influence on your feelings towards yourself.
10. You don’t feel very happy or positive about yourself
Do negative thoughts come up when negative people do not focus on the negative past experiences, or do negative past experiences get in the way of focusing on what’s happening right now? If this sounds like you then there’s likely negative thinking going on. Negative people often struggle with feeling good about themselves because negative thoughts get in the way – making it difficult to see anything positive around them.
A great way of getting more positivity into your life is by keeping a journal or diary, where you write down all the things that have happened during each day that are worth being grateful for! If this sounds like too much work then just take some time to think about what you’re grateful for at the end of each day.
11. You expect negative things to happen
Negative people often struggle with their expectations because they’re constantly focusing on how bad things went in the negative past experiences – making expectations difficult.
A great way of limiting negative thinking is by knowing you are not in control of the outcome of any situation and accepting that there are things in life you have zero power over.
12. You have negative thoughts about yourself or other people on a regular basis
Negative people often struggle with intruding thoughts that don’t allow them to either see the reality of the situation or accept anything positive about it.
A great way of getting rid of negative thinking is by replacing those negative thoughts with more positive ones and challenging your current thought process.
13. You’re pessimistic most of the time
Being pessimistic means you’re always expecting negative things to happen, rather than being positive and thinking about all the possibilities that could come from a particular situation. You refuse to see that good could come out of any situation and don’t view bad situations as lessons learned.
14. You feel you can’t rely on others
You don’t have much trust that people are going to be there for you or that you can rely on them. This in return, leaves you to feel lonely or perhaps discouraged in others.
Try to understand why you feel this way, and how you can build trust in those around you.
15. You don’t feel very confident in yourself
Negative people often struggle with a lack of self-confidence.
A great way to boost your confidence is by reading self-help books and attending seminars, where you learn more about controlling negative thinking so it doesn’t take control over you! If this sounds like too much work then just take some time to think about what you’re grateful for at the end of each day.
The first step to changing your life is recognizing that you have a problem. In the end, it’s not about what others think of us as much as how we feel about ourselves and our lives.
If this sounds like you, take some time to look back on your past week – was there enough positivity? Were there times when you were overly critical or judgmental without thinking through all the pros and cons? Have people complained about feeling tired or down when they’re around you even though nothing has changed in their day-to-day routine?
Sometimes just identifying these negative habits can be an important first step towards change! We hope these 15 signs will help you to change the course of your mind.