Are you dealing with a jealous person? You know, that friend or family member who always seems to be watching your every move and questioning what you are doing.
Everyone has dealt with a jealous person at some point in their life. It’s not always easy to know if someone is jealous or not, and it can be even more difficult to figure out what they’re feeling when you do understand the situation.
It can be difficult to deal with this type of person, but it is important to remember not everyone has jealousy in their heart. Here are 10 signs you might be dealing with someone who is jealous.
1. They make you feel bad about your success
A jealous person will do anything to make you feel bad about yourself and what you have going for you. They try to undermine your successes by making them seem less important, or they might even express their displeasure in a way that makes it seem like they’re not jealous at all.
In reality, though, the only reason someone would be jealous of you is because they want to be you. It’s important not to let jealous people bring you down, and realize that the only way they can make themselves feel better about their own lives is by making you feel worse about yours.
2. They compare themselves to you and find fault in everything they do
When you feel jealous of someone else, it’s easy to only focus on all the things they have going for them and forget about your own accomplishments.
A jealous person will do just that — compare themselves to you and find fault in everything they do. They might even downplay their abilities or belittle what they’ve accomplished because it doesn’t match up to what you’ve done.
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3. When you try to talk about yourself, they always interrupt with their own story
Everyone loves to talk about themselves, but when you try to reciprocate the conversation with your own story, jealous people will never let you finish. They always have a better story or more interesting experience they want to share instead of letting someone else speak for once in the conversation.
4. You can’t share anything without them feeling like it’s a competition or that it will somehow take something away from them
When someone is jealous of you, they see everything as a competition. Your successes are their failures and vice versa. Sharing things or having positive experiences together might feel like it’s taking something away from them, so jealous people often don’t want to share anything with the person who makes them jealous — even if that means missing out on good times in the process.
5. They’re constantly checking up on what you’re doing and who you’re with
When jealous people like someone, they’ll often follow their every move. They might not even realize that what they’re doing is a little bit creepy — at least until you tell them so.
Checking up on your relationship status or who you’ve been hanging out with isn’t cute and it’s definitely not healthy behavior.
6. They undermine compliments given to you
Jealous people love to put down other people in order to make themselves feel better. If you receive a compliment, jealous types will always find some way of undermining it. They might even go so far as telling you that the person giving the compliment was insincere or didn’t really mean it at all — when they clearly did!
7. They are very possessive of you
Jealous people see things in black and white. They either want to be with someone 100% or not at all, which can lead jealous types to become extremely possessive of their partners.
Jealously often goes hand-in-hand with controlling behavior too, so jealous people will do whatever it takes to keep you from going anywhere without them.
8. They are jealous of your friends
It can be really hard to make new friends as an adult, but jealous people don’t want you spending time with anyone other than them. They might even come up with ways of cutting down or insulting your closest relationships in order to gain some control over the situation.
Of course, this behavior is never acceptable and is often a sign of deeper relationship problems.
9. They belittle your accomplishments
Jealous people often feel like they’re not good enough and that the only reason someone is successful or moving up in life is that it’s taking something away from them — even if this isn’t the case at all.
Jealous types will try to belittle your accomplishments so that you don’t get too big for your boots.
10. They are very suspicious and mistrusting of others
Jealous people often have a hard time trusting those around them, especially if they feel like someone is jealous of them.
If you find yourself constantly being accused of flirting or betraying your jealous partner, it’s probably because they don’t trust you and are projecting their own insecurities onto you.
11. They tend to be passive-aggressive towards you
Jealous people don’t want to come out and say what’s really bothering them — even if it means saying things that are hurtful or disrespectful.
Passive-aggressive jealous types might give you the cold shoulder, accuse you of doing something wrong when they know full well that you didn’t, or tease you in a way that feels degrading.
Jealousy is a natural human emotion, but it can also be an unhealthy one. If you find yourself dealing with someone who seems to have jealousy patterns that are affecting your relationship or work life, consider seeking professional help for the person either through therapy or counseling.
You deserve happiness and success in all areas of your life–and so does everyone else!