Are you or have you ever felt lost in life? Every human does at one point or another for different reasons. One of man’s greatest questions has always been finding the meaning of life.
At least as of right now, there isn’t one clear answer to this question. Based on how individualistic each and every single human is, I would say that the meaning of life is different for everyone.
So, if you find yourself feeling lost, today we will discuss some simple and actionable steps that you can take to help find your way.
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Why You May Feel Lost in Life
Feeling lost in life can be due to a number of different things. It could be due to a traumatic experience, such as a breakup or the death of a loved one.
It can also be due to a big life choice, such as changing your college major, dropping out, getting married, or moving to a new area. Sometimes, we feel lost when simple, everyday life catches up with us.
Maybe you are taking on too many things at once and have lost a sense of self. Maybe you need to change your path because of the person you have grown into. All of these and more are valid reasons for feeling lost in life.
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15 Steps to Take When You Feel Lost in Life
1. Listen to yourself
What does your heart tell you that you want to do? Is there a hobby or career you want to work towards? Or maybe work on a certain personality trait? Possibly relationship building?
Whatever it may be, listen to what your heart and your brain are yearning for and start there.
2. Trust your instinct
When interacting with others or just going about your day-to-day life, go with your first instinct. Many of us often change our choices and reactions based on those around us for fear of some sort of negative reaction. Therefore, we end up changing who we are to please others or avoid conflict. But if you go with your first instinct, you’ll be true to yourself and might even find that the result is a more positive one than you anticipated.
3. Find your own path
While it’s great to take advice from others, you shouldn’t live your life based on what somebody else thinks is best for you. You know yourself better than anyone else, so trust your gut and find your own path. In addition, don’t be afraid to forge your own path – even if it means going against the grain.
4. Do what feels right
This ties in closely with trusting your instinct. If something doesn’t feel right, there’s probably a good reason for it. Whether it’s a person you’re interacting with, a situation you’re in, or even a place you’re visiting, if something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.
5. Be true to yourself
This is perhaps the most important point of all. At the end of the day, you need to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of who you are. If you’re not being true to yourself, you’ll only end up feeling disappointed and unhappy. So live your life authentically and don’t let anyone else control it.
Of course, this is easier said than done and it takes a lot of practice to be able to do this consistently. But it’s important to remind yourself that you are the only one who knows what’s best for you. So trust yourself and follow your heart. It will lead you to where you need to go.
6. Be comfortable with who you are
This ties in closely with being true to yourself. It’s important to be comfortable with who you are as a person – flaws and all. We all have flaws and there’s no shame in that. Embrace your imperfections and learn to love yourself for who you are.
7. Figure out what goals you have
It doesn’t have to be making a ton of money or leveling up in a career. It could be something more personal like learning to listen more or going for walks outside more often.
Write these goals down and post them somewhere you will see them daily so it’s a gentle reminder to work towards these goals.
8. Sit with your thoughts
This is a big one. A lot of us are afraid of silence and being alone with our thoughts. We try to fill up every waking moment with some sort of activity – whether it’s scrolling through social media, watching TV, or talking to others. But it’s important to take some time out for yourself and just sit with your thoughts. This can be uncomfortable at first, but it’s a great way to get in touch with yourself and learn more about who you are.
9. Take a break
You could be feeling lost because you are overwhelmed with so many different things in life. It may be time to take a break. Not all of us can up and quit what we are doing, but find ways where you can stop doing certain things for a while. This can help clear your mind and give you some much-needed time to focus on yourself.
10. Do something that scares you
This is a great way to push yourself out of your comfort zone and learn more about who you are. When we do things that scare us, it forces us to face our fears head-on. And more often than not, we find that the thing we were afraid of wasn’t nearly as bad as we thought it was. So take some risks and do something that scares you. It might just be the best thing you ever do.
11. Indulge in what you find enjoyable.
Whether it be playing video games, reading comics, cooking or baking, etc. Finding time to do what brings you joy can stimulate creativity and clear your mind. It will give you a stronger sense of purpose.
12. Get rid of anything that doesn’t make you happy
This includes people, material items, and toxic habits. If something or someone is no longer bringing positivity into your life, it may be time to let it go. This can be a difficult thing to do, but it’s often necessary in order to move forward.
13. Spend time outside in nature
There’s something about being in nature that just has a way of making us feel more at peace. So take some time to go for a walk in the park, sit by a lake, or just spend time in your backyard. It doesn’t matter where you are, as long as you’re surrounded by nature. It is proven to have a calming effect on the mind and can help you to feel more centered.
14. Find your purpose
This is a big one. A lot of us go through life without really having a sense of purpose. We just sort of go through the motions day-by-day without any real direction.
But finding your purpose can be a game-changer. It can give you a sense of meaning and direction in life. And it can be something as simple as making a difference in the lives of others. So take some time to figure out what your purpose is. It may just be the thing that changes everything.
15. Be grateful for what you have
One of the best ways to feel lost is to focus on all the things you don’t have. This will only lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and unhappiness. So instead, focus on all the things you do have. Be grateful for your health, your family and friends, your home, your job, etc.
There are so many things to be thankful for. And when you focus on these things, it will be impossible to feel lost.
Finding Your Way in Life
Take some time to self-reflect and think about some things that you want to focus on in life. Again, it doesn’t have to be a flashy goal. It can be very simple.
Whatever will truly make you happy and fuel your passion will work best. Reach out to a loved one or therapist to vent or for some guidance.
It’s important to take things slow and learn to protect your time and energy and say yes to things that are a hell yes.
Most importantly, know that it is perfectly normal to feel these types of emotions and that it is a regular part of life.
Sometimes we have to sit through these emotions and simply let them pass.
In summary, we all feel lost in life at one point or another. Sometimes we have to take steps to work through these feelings or simply recognize them and let them pass.
Whatever route you may need to take, love yourself every step of the way and know that this too shall pass.