Comparison is a natural human tendency. We often compare ourselves to others in various aspects of life, including our careers, relationships, wealth, and physical appearance. While it is natural to compare ourselves to others, it can also be detrimental to our mental health and well-being.
Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” This statement holds true for many reasons. When we compare ourselves to others, we are often left feeling inadequate and unhappy. We begin to focus on what we lack rather than what we have, leading to a sense of dissatisfaction with our lives.
5 Reasons Why Comparison is the Thief of Joy
It leads to unrealistic expectations.
We often compare ourselves to people who have achieved success in their lives, without considering the journey they took to get there. We forget that everyone’s journey is different, and success is not always measured by the same standards.
For example, we may compare our career progress to that of a colleague who seems to have achieved more success than us. However, we may not know the sacrifices they made to get there or the challenges they faced along the way. By comparing ourselves to others, we set unrealistic expectations for ourselves, leading to disappointment and dissatisfaction.
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It leads to a negative self-image.
When we constantly compare ourselves to others, we begin to focus on our flaws and shortcomings. We start to believe that we are not good enough or that we are not capable of achieving success.
This negative self-image can have a significant impact on our mental health and well-being. It can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. We may begin to doubt our abilities and lose confidence in ourselves, which can hinder our progress and success.
It leads to a sense of jealousy and resentment towards others.
When we compare ourselves to others, we often focus on what they have that we do not. This can lead to feelings of envy and bitterness toward those who have achieved success or have something they desire.
These negative emotions can be toxic and can lead to strained relationships with others. We may become resentful towards those who have what we want, leading to a sense of isolation and loneliness.
It can distract us from our goals.
When we are constantly comparing ourselves to others, it can be difficult to focus on our own goals and aspirations. We become so focused on what others have that we lose sight of what matters most: our own ambitions, dreams, and desires.
We waste time worrying about other people’s achievements instead of focusing on our own progress. This can lead to an unproductive cycle that can prevent us from reaching our full potential.
It robs us of experiencing joy in the present moment.
Comparison steals away the joy we could be feeling in the present moment. We are so focused on how others are doing, or what they have that we are missing out on the good things happening in our own lives.
We become so consumed with comparison that it takes away from our ability to appreciate and enjoy what is right in front of us. We forget to be grateful for what we have and miss out on experiencing joy in the present moment.
So, how can we avoid the trap of comparison and find joy in our lives? The first step is to focus on our own journey and progress. We should celebrate our successes and achievements, no matter how small they may be. By focusing on our own personal journey, we can build our confidence and self-esteem, which can lead to greater success and happiness.