It’s a habit we all have – explaining ourselves. We often feel the need to explain ourselves, whether it’s to defend our choices, explain our actions, or just let people know we’re there. This habit can be a source of stress and anxiety, but it doesn’t have to be.
In this blog post, we are going over 10 ways to break it once and for all and start to live a life without excessive explanation.
Why We Feel the Need to Explain Ourselves
We all have moments of doubt and insecurity where we feel a need to explain ourselves or our choices. It is important to remember that this is a normal emotion, but sometimes we tend to overdo it.
There are several reasons why people feel the need to explain themselves:
- Fear of judgment: People often feel the need to explain themselves to avoid being criticized or judged by others.
- Need for validation: People may feel the need to explain themselves to seek validation or approval from others.
- Lack of self-confidence: People who lack self-confidence may feel the need to explain themselves to appear more credible or trustworthy.
- Need for understanding: People may feel the need to explain themselves to help others understand their perspectives or actions.
- Pressure to conform: People may feel the need to explain themselves to fit in with societal expectations or norms.
Our differences make us stronger, and ultimately, it is what allow us to progress as a society. The next time you find yourself wanting to explain or justify your decisions or opinions, take the time instead to think of what they can add to the conversation.
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10 Ways To Stop Explaining Yourself
1. Don’t Feel the Need to Justify Your Actions
One of the main reasons why people feel the need to explain themselves is because they feel like they need to justify their actions.
However, you should never feel like you need to justify your actions to anyone. You are the only one who knows what is best for you, and as long as you are not harming anyone else, you should not have to explain yourself.
2. Understand that you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your actions, thoughts, or feelings. You are not responsible for other people’s reactions or understanding.
What you do and how you feel is entirely up to you, and nobody has the right to demand an explanation from you.
3. Be Confident in Your Choices
Another reason why people feel the need to explain themselves is that they are not confident in their choices.
If you are confident in your choices, then you will not feel the need to explain yourself to others. Trust your gut and make the choices that are right for you, even if others do not agree with them.
4. Know That You Don’t Have to Please Everyone
You will never be able to please everyone, no matter how hard you try. People are going to disagree with your decisions and opinions, but that doesn’t mean that you should feel the need to explain yourself.
Let go of the need to please everyone and focus on making choices that make you happy.
5. Realize That Not Everyone Will Understand
Not everyone will understand your choices or actions, and that’s okay. You don’t need everyone’s approval or understanding. This is your life, and you are the only one who has to live with it.
As long as you know why you are doing something, that is all that matters.
6. Be Okay with Being Misunderstood
There will be times when people misunderstand your actions or intentions, but that’s okay.
It is impossible for everyone to agree all of the time, and it’s important to be okay with that fact. People will disagree with you no matter what you do, so don’t let it bother you too much.
7. Accept That People Will Have Their Opinions
People are entitled to their opinions, even if they don’t agree with yours. accept that fact and move on. There is no point in getting into arguments with people over things that you cannot change.
Not only will it be a waste of time, but it can also be emotionally draining.
8. Learn to trust yourself
Trust is often the underlying issue when it comes to feeling the need to explain yourself. If you learn how to trust yourself, then you won’t have to worry about explaining your choices or actions.
Not only will you feel better about yourself, but it will also be less stressful to stop looking for approval from other people all the time.
9. Stop Overthinking
It’s easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of overthinking and explaining yourself. However, it can be damaging to your mental health if you constantly ruminate on what other people think of you or how they might react to something you do.
Take a deep breath and let go of any expectations you have for how others should perceive your behavior.
10. Spend less time with judgemental people
If you’re surrounded by people who are constantly judging your decisions and forcing you to explain yourself, it’s time to re-evaluate these relationships.
Find people who will support and encourage you in making decisions that are right for you, regardless of how others may interpret them.
It can be difficult to stop explaining yourself, but it is important to remember that you do not owe anyone an explanation.
We hope that these tips will help you gain more confidence and trust yourself so that you can make decisions without feeling the need to explain them.