There are many times in life when we feel unappreciated. When this happens, it is important to remember that there are plenty of people who do appreciate us and would be happy to lend a helping hand if needed. In this article, we’ll discuss 17 things to do when you are feeling unappreciated.
What it Means to Feel Unappreciated
Feeling unappreciated is feeling generally negative about feeling like you aren’t getting what you deserve. Sometimes, feeling this way can mean feeling like you don’t matter.
It’s common to feel unappreciated from time to time-it happens in all relationships, but there are ways to turn this feeling around and work towards feeling better.
17 Things to Do When You Feel Unappreciated
1. Recognize that feeling unappreciated is normal.
Everyone feels unappreciated sometimes. Remind yourself that feeling unappreciated and feeling like you don’t matter is not the same thing, so don’t let them be confused.
2. Recognize that feeling unappreciated doesn’t mean feeling sorry for yourself.
Feeling unappreciated doesn’t mean feeling sorry for yourself-it just means feeling like you don’t matter, but feeling unappreciated and feeling that you don’t matter actually aren’t the same thing.
In fact, feeling unappreciated can lead to feeling sorry for yourself, but feeling sorry for yourself won’t do you any favors. Instead, remind yourself that feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive and pointless. You have to turn this feeling around and work towards feeling better.
3. Look for things in life that make you happy and focus on those things when feeling down.
Take the time to figure out what brings you joy in life when feeling unappreciated. Maybe it’s spending time with family, or maybe a relaxing walk clears your head or perhaps getting lost in a good book centers yourself.
Focus on these things when feeling down and remind yourself how important they are to you.
4. Be grateful for what you do have in life
When feeling unappreciated, it’s easy to focus on all of the things that you want in life and to forget about what you already have.
Instead, remind yourself that feeling unappreciated doesn’t mean feeling sorry for yourself. Be grateful for what you do have in life.
5. Spend some time alone, but don’t isolate yourself.
Feeling unappreciated can lead to feeling lonely. Sometimes, this feeling is accompanied by feeling isolated, like you are too different from others or that no one understands you. This feeling leads to feeling sorry for yourself.
When feeling unappreciated, allow yourself some alone time but don’t isolate yourself entirely from the world around you.
6. Find others who feel unappreciated and empathize with them
Sometimes feeling like you are alone with feeling unappreciated can make that feeling worse. Instead of feeling isolated, reach out to others who may be feeling the same way.
Let them know how you feel and find out what they’re doing about feeling like they don’t matter. Everyone is different, which means everyone has to deal with feeling unappreciated in different ways.
7. Figure out how you want others to feel about you- this feeling can be accomplished by feeling appreciated or feeling like they matter to you.
When feeling unappreciated, it’s easy to forget that other people have feelings too and it’s hard for them to understand how you feel if you don’t let them know.
Be honest with yourself about how others should feel about feeling like they don’t matter-don’t make that feeling on purpose or cause it to hurt anyone else around you, especially when feeling unappreciated.
8. Allow yourself to let out your frustration-but don’t take it out on anyone else.
Identifying feeling unappreciated and feeling that you don’t matter can be frustrating.
When feeling frustrated, allow yourself to let out some of your frustration in a safe place where no one will get hurt by feeling unappreciated or feel like they don’t matter either.
9. Don’t let feeling unappreciated become your identity.
Sometimes feeling unappreciated can feel like your identity. This feeling doesn’t have to define who you are or what matters most to feeling unappreciated.
Instead, remind yourself that feeling unappreciated doesn’t mean feeling sorry for yourself and point out situations in which you are appreciated.
10. Turn feeling unappreciated into a feeling of empowerment.
Feeling unappreciated can become draining instead of empowering and uplifting feeling.
Instead, spend some time reminding yourself that feeling unappreciated doesn’t mean feeling sorry for yourself and feeling apologetic but rather feeling strong about your feelings and about who you are as a person.
11. Learn from feeling unappreciated and move on to feel better in the future.
Feeling unappreciated can sometimes be a feeling that just passes in time.
This feeling doesn’t last forever and you don’t have to let feeling unappreciated define who you are or what matters most to feeling unappreciated. Learn from the experience, and move on feeling better in the future.
12. Spend time feeling appreciated-take a few moments to appreciate someone else feeling unappreciated or feeling like they matter.
When feeling unappreciated, it’s easy to forget that feeling unappreciated is not something that others wish on feeling unappreciated.
Spend time feeling appreciated to remind yourself feeling unappreciated is not something that should last forever or as part of feeling like you don’t matter.
13. Meditate and build awareness of feeling unappreciated
Take some time to meditate on building awareness of feeling unappreciated or feeling like you don’t matter. Meditation can help to calm your feelings and give you a sense of peace within yourself.
14. Find what makes you feel valued and appreciated
One really great way to feel better about feeling unappreciated is to find something in your life that makes you feel valued and appreciated-maybe it’s a hobby, job or what you do for others.
15. Get help if feeling unappreciated starts to feel out of control
Feeling unappreciated can be a feeling that affects your life in many ways-don’t hide feeling unappreciated from others, get help if feeling like you don’t matter starts feeling out of control.
16. Don’t take feeling unappreciated personally
Feeling unappreciated can make you feeling like it is your fault or something that you will never change about feeling unappreciated.
This feeling isn’t true and it doesn’t mean feeling unappreciated is personal to feel like you don’t matter.
17. Talk about feeling unappreciated out with someone you trust.
If feeling unappreciated or feeling like you don’t matter is feeling like it’s taking over your life, then talk about feeling unappreciated out with someone who might understand what you’re going through.
Talking things out with someone you trust can relieve some of that anxiety.
Final Thoughts
I hope this article sheds some light and could help you in the future. Share your thoughts on what you do when feeling unappreciated. What strategies have helped you?