There are certain signs that can indicate that someone is a reserved person. These people can be difficult to get to know, as they tend to keep their feelings and thoughts close to their chest.
If you are trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, it is important to look for these signs. In this blog post, we will discuss 15 of the most common ones.
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1. They have a small group of close friends.
Reserved people are often more comfortable with having a small group of close friends, rather than a large circle of acquaintances. They may be shy or introverted, and so they prefer to spend their time with people who they know well and feel comfortable around. This doesn’t mean that reserved people don’t like meeting new people, but they may take longer to warm up to them.
If you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, don’t be discouraged if they don’t immediately open up to you. They may just need some time to get used to you.
2. They’re not big on small talk.
Reserved people generally don’t enjoy making small talk. They would much rather have a meaningful conversation about something that they’re interested in. So, if you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, it’s best to avoid topics like the weather and instead focus on something that you both have in common.
For example, you could ask them about their favorite book or movie. This will give you a better sense of who they are and what they’re interested in.
Small talk is reserved for people who don’t really know each other yet. So if you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, avoid it.
3. They’re not very expressive.
Reserved people are often not very expressive, both verbally and non-verbally. They may not make a lot of eye contact, and they may have a hard time speaking up in groups. This can make them seem uninterested or even aloof. However, reserved people are usually just introverts who need some time to process their thoughts before they share them.
If you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, don’t take it personally if they’re not very expressive. They may just need some time to warm up to you.
4. They’re not afraid of silence.
Reserved people are comfortable with silence, and they don’t feel the need to fill every moment of it with noise. This can be difficult for people who are used to always having someone talking to them.
If you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, don’t be afraid of moments of silence. They’re likely not uncomfortable with it and may even appreciate the chance to just sit and think for a while.
5. They’re careful with their words.
Reserved people are often very careful with their words. They want to make sure that they say exactly what they mean and that their words are not misunderstood.
This can make them seem thoughtful and wise. If you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, be patient as they choose their words carefully. It will be worth the wait to hear what they have to say.
6. They’re not afraid of emotions.
Just because reserved people don’t share their emotions freely doesn’t mean that they’re afraid of them. In fact, reserved people often have very strong emotions.
They just don’t feel the need to express them all the time. If you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, don’t be afraid to ask about their feelings. They may surprise you with how open they are.
7. They’re not always serious.
Just because reserved people are careful with their words doesn’t mean that they’re always serious. In fact, reserved people can be very funny and witty. They just don’t feel the need to make a joke every time there’s a lull in the conversation.
If you’re trying to get to know someone who seems reserved, don’t be afraid to enjoy the silence and the moments when they make you laugh.
8. They never reveal too much about themselves.
Reserved people are very private and they never reveal too much about themselves. This can make them seem mysterious and even difficult to get to know.
However, reserved people are usually just very selective about who they share their thoughts and feelings with.
9. They are often quiet and introspective.
Reserved people are often quiet and introspective. They like to spend time alone thinking about their life and the world around them. This can make them seem distant or even uninterested in others.
However, reserved people are usually just very introspective and they need time alone to process their thoughts.
10. They don’t open up easily to new people.
Reserved people don’t open up easily to new people. They need time to get to know someone before they feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings with them.
This can make reserved people seem difficult to get to know. However, if you’re patient and you take the time to get to know them, they will eventually open up to you.
11. They’re not always the life of the party.
Reserved people are not always the life of the party. They may not be the first ones to start dancing or to initiate conversation. However, reserved people can still have a lot of fun at parties and social gatherings.
They just don’t feel the need to be the center of attention all the time.
12. They’re not always comfortable in social situations.
Reserved people are not always comfortable in social situations. They may feel out of place at parties or other gatherings where they don’t know many people.
However, reserved people can still enjoy social situations if they take the time to get to know the people around them.
13. They are not the touchy-feely type
Reserved people are not the touchy-feely type. They may not like to be hugged or to have their personal space invaded. This can make them seem unapproachable or even unfriendly.
However, reserved people are usually just very private and they need time to get to know someone before they feel comfortable being physically close to them.
14. They like to spend time alone
Reserved people like to spend time alone. They may not always want to go out and socialize. This can make them seem antisocial or even lonely.
However, reserved people are usually just very independent, and they need time alone to recharge their batteries.
15. They think before they speak
Reserved people think before they speak. They carefully consider their words before they say them. This can make them seem slow or even uninterested in the conversation.
However, reserved people are usually just very thoughtful and they want to make sure that their words are meaningful.
Final Thoughts
If you know someone who seems reserved, don’t be discouraged. There are many reasons why someone might be reserved, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not interested in getting to know you.
Reserved people are often just very private and they need time to get to know someone before they feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings